The leaves are changing, the temperature is dropping, and the days are growing short. Fall is officially here! But what does that have to do with your bdsm collar, and what should you do about it?
Well, let me tell you!
Fall, or Autumn depending on your preference, is the cool season of the year just before winter’s frost sets in. It’s the season of all things Pumpkin spice, russet hues, and bonfires. It’s also the perfect time to put away summer’s finery and trade it for cozier wear, embracing Fall’s stunning array of fashions and styles.
While you are boxing up your swimsuits and your sun dresses, it’s a good time to also take a solid look at your jewelry selection for the season, including your submissive collars.
After all, it’s awfully hard to hide a bright pink bdsm collar with a burnt orange sweater. As a matter of fact, if you’ve read my guide to going collared in public, you know that coordinating the color and style of your collar with your clothes is the cornerstone to keeping the private side of your life from being a topic of the neighborhood gossip.
Instead, consider packing away your summer collars and accessories for bdsm jewelry that fits more seamlessly with the season’s fashion, and ensures your lifestyle stays discreet.
Not sure how to coordinate you fall clothes with your submissive day collars? Here are 5 easy coordinated looks that anyone can pull off this fall season, and look elegantly stylish while being a discreetly collared right side of the slash.
1. Plaids and Hearts
Maybe you are a Lumberjack-sexual, or just love the soft and cozy feeling of plaid flannel against your bare skin? I mean, who doesn’t? After all, there is nothing more iconic than a plaid jacket on a crisp fall day.
This two-toned classic fall pattern has been around since the virtual dawn of time. Sure, it’s come and gone and come again as a trendy, fashionable look. But no matter what uppity New York Fashion firms say, you will always find a plaid jacket in almost every closet in America.
However, this often loved fall trend is super hard to style! I mean, you can’t get too frilly or the whole thing becomes a monstrous eyesore.
So, instead of dressing up plaid, take the more casual and classic approach with your day collar this season. Stay away from super close chokers with this casual look, and opt for a discreet day collar that is simple but complimentary.
Adding a pop of neutral color, and a classic heart padlock turns this look from plaid-tastrohpe to fall woodland wonder that even vanilla folks will adore.
Recommended: The GemBound Day Collar (shown) or the Harvest Chain Sterling Silver slave collar.
2. Classic Cardigans and Collars
During the crisp fall months, as we transition from summers warm breezes to the glittering icicles of winter, layers are the name of the game. Depending on the weather, the more layers the better!
A camisole, cardigan, and long silky scarf are the perfect stylish fall clothes to wear to a bonfire gathering, or the pumpkin patch. However, with all those layers what do you wear that doesn’t get tangled, trashing your lovely look?
When it’s time to layer up, choose a bdsm collar that compliments but doesn’t compete. Stay away from bulky collar styles such as banded collar chokers. Instead, opt for classic looks and small pendants that peek out from your layers in a flirty manner.
Another problem with layers is competing colors. Be sure to choose bdsm jewelry that compliments each layer of color without clashing. When in doubt, stick to neutral tones of silver, antique silver, black, and white gold to accent your colorful levels of clothing.
Recommended: The Sterling Silver Love Knot Necklace (shown), The Minimalist stainless steel day collar.
3. Sweaters and Stainless Steel
I don’t know about you, but the one thing that excited me most about fall weather is being able to pull my favorite slouchy black sweater on. You know, the one with the long draping cowl neck that envelopes you in softness?
Yeah…
The only problem with those super comfy sweaters? All that bulk is hard to compete with when it comes to your collar!! So with this look, we slid to the opposite side of the spectrum.
Bold, big, chunky chains.
Instead of dainty collars and little pendants, up your looks like an autumn nymph with a sleek sweater and a thick stainless steel chain collar that stands out in all those fluffy folds. Choose collars that are on the chunky side, and an industrial feel to stay on trend with this season’s fashion.
These bold styles are less likely to get lost in all the fuzzy ripples of your favorite fall sweaters, and stand out as an eye catching, yet discreet fashion statement.
Recommendations: The Persian Halo Stainless Steel Play Collar (shown), The Captured Blossom Discreet BDSM Collar.
4. The timeless LBD and Copper.
Fall is SO little black dress season. Pair that LBD with a stunning set of fall leggings and it’s like style gold! Or, slip on a pair of the boots with the fur with your little black dress, and get low-low-low-low.
I won’t judge you!
Just about anything goes with the Little Black Dress. It’s a classic fashion choice for Fall, and it always looks elegant on any body style. The problem doesn’t lie with what won’t clash, the problem is that you might end up looking like everyone else in the room.
That’s no Bueno my friend, you are a beautifully unique individual, a goddess! Goddesses don’t blend in with the mortals.
To make your LBD, and YOU truly shine like the divine creature you are, I recommend adding and eye catching pop of color with your collar. To keep on trend with the season, and pay homage to the beautiful fall colors that nature provides, I recommend adding a copper slave collar to your collection.
The warm hues and complimentary earth tones will really set off this look among the changing leaves. You’ll be the most fashionably dressed goddess in the room, bringing with you the scent of sweet fall leaves and the memory or warm fires.
Bonus points to your goddess form if your copper has been flame painted! Adding a bit of extra contrast will draw the eye, and the compliments with it while still maintaining your discreet lifestyle in public.
Recommended: Feather Goddess Copper Slave Collar (shown), Phoenix Rising Signature Necklace
5. High fashion furs and high collars.
There is nothing more quintessentially cold weather fashion than a fur (or faux fur) coat. This fashion has been the symbol of wealth, elegance, and beauty since the days of monarchies.
While most people opt for the less expensive (and less invasive) faux fur option, this style is still very much in fashion for fall today. As a matter of fact, a fluffy fur coat pairs with just about any style of clothing from jeans and a T to a fancy dress and leggings… or nothing at all!
The problem with this fanciful bundle of fur is that same with the slouchy sweater.
SO MUCH BULK! All that soft and fuzzy warmth is hard to compete with.
Instead of trying to overwhelm it with colors, rise above it!
For this look I recommend a high choker style bdsm collar. Something that rises up the throat to sit above the neckline of all that fuzz and fur, glimmering enticingly to intrigue the observer to what lies beneath.
Choose shiny metals such as sterling silver, high polished stainless steel, or gold that will glitter amongst the tufts of warmth. Or, add pops or jewel bright color that boldly announce your presence on this chilly seasons’ stage.
Recommended: Goddess Bound Silver Discreet Submissive Collar (shown), Euros Drape Stainless Steel Play Collar.